“If the worry is reasonable, do something about it. If it’s irrational or out of your control, recognize that.” – Eric Barker
I am a worrier. I come by it honestly, as my mom is a worrier too. And I fear I have passed this trait on to my daughter. I have gotten better the last several years about stressing less, especially about things I have no control over. Living with a chronic condition has helped me with that. But I still have my moments. And when I do, I recite this quote to myself to help me let things go…
“Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
Take a Cue
I read this article this morning in the Washington Post by Eric Barker, called “Take a cue from Buddhists and Stoics and ask yourself these 5 questions to get through stressful times” and thought I would share it with others as a reminder of ways to help cope. A little more zen and a little less stress would do us all some good.
Here’s a summary of the five questions to ask yourself:
1. “Is it useful?” Most worrying isn’t. Make a decision to do something or to let it go. 2. “Does the world owe me this?” No. Don’t be entitled. Have realistic expectations and you won’t get angry. 3. “Must I have this to live a happy life?” Probably not. It takes little to make a happy life and there are many ways to get those things. 4. “Is this who I want to be?” Act the way you do when you’re at your best. 5. “Have I ever felt that way?” Respond to others’ problems with compassion and you’ll both have fewer problems.
This line from the article hits home for me: “If the worry is reasonable, do something about it. If it’s irrational or out of your control, recognize that.”
Stress is a normal part of life – both good and bad stress. It’s how you react to stress that can lead to adverse effects on your health. Needless worrying can produce extra stress, which can flare or exacerbate health problems, such as my fibromyalgia. I don’t want that. My family doesn’t want that. My co-workers and staff definitely don’t want that. I am a much happier, productive person if I control my stress and my health; and irrational worrying has no place in that picture.
Do you have other tips for getting through stressful times, to avoid the useless “worry-rocking chair” situation?
In my professional career, I have never really been a specialist, but I do consider myself good at a variety of things. And so it is in my personal hobbies, I have various things I truly enjoy, but no one thing I have perfected. I dabble in writing this blog, photography, painting rocks, volunteering, and all these things I do give me joy, fulfillment, and serenity in my life and help me be the best version of me. I love finding inspiration in every day life!
“The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”
~ Pablo Picasso
But one thing I have found that I both enjoy and am fairly good at is strategy development and plan execution. And so it is that I joined the board of a local non-profit last year, to help them succeed in fulfilling their mission, while helping to develop a strategic plan and stay focused on plan execution. This is the gift I have developed that I am able to give away. #lovewhatyoudo
I saw this graphic on twitter from Dr. Margare Aranda and thought this pretty much sums up my #currentsituation so I wanted share. Sometimes you really have to fight for your diagnosis.
I wrote about trying to get a diagnosis for this chronic pain I have had off and on for a few years now in my last very lengthy blog post. Tests, procedures, scans, second opinions, third opinions. I have one more appointment tomorrow morning. My binder is ready with all of my recent exams. My fingers are crossed. And I have hope.
“At the end of the day all you need is hope and strength. Hope that it will get better, and strength to hold on until it does.” ~ Jazmin Whitmore
I think for many people suffering in pain, just knowing they aren’t crazy and that there is some logical, medical explanation for what they are experiencing gives a profound sense of relief and peace of mind. Getting to the correct diagnosis should get you on the proper road to recovery. As Gandhi said, it’s 3/4 of the remedy!
Have you had challenges getting a chronic condition diagnosed? Do you have any lessons learned that you can share?
“No bird soars too high if he soars with his own wings.”
~ William Blake
I took these pictures while on vacationing in Oregon this past January. We took a day trip to drive up the Pacific Coast Highway, visit the Tillamook Dairy factory, and stop by Cannon Beach and the famous “Goonies rock”. This day was special because it was one of the few days we got to explore Oregon — we spent the next two days of our trip snowed in!
Excellence is a habit – 5 tips to be a better you.
I have this quote from Aristotle on my desktop at work to remind me that it takes practice and consistency to get better and achieve excellence. Getting better to me is making incremental improvements, either in health, talents, or habits. Small acts done consistently over time become big habits.
Those who can, do. Those who can do more, volunteer.
Lately putting together a blog post has been tough, as I have been incredibly busy while still pushing through my neck pain, which then flares my fibromyalgia. I feel like I have lost some of my zip. Work, volunteering on the board of a non-profit, and life in general keeps me busy and tired. But as this is National Volunteer Week, I thought I would share a collection of my favorite inspirational quotes bring the point of volunteering home. I wrote about this a few months back in a post called I Can Do Something, inspired by this quote:
“I can’t do everything but I can do SOMETHING. I will not let the things I cannot do prevent me from doing the things I can.” ~ Helen Keller
So why do I volunteer?
Giving back to small businesses or non-profit organizations helps society. There are organizations that just couldn’t do what they manage to accomplish without the help of volunteers, given their limited resources.
Volunteering gives you a sense of purpose and the ability to contribute to a cause you care about while sharing your talents.
Volunteering helps you build relationships with others who are also passionate about your cause, and gives you a community to belong to.