“If the worry is reasonable, do something about it. If it’s irrational or out of your control, recognize that.” – Eric Barker
I am a worrier. I come by it honestly, as my mom is a worrier too. And I fear I have passed this trait on to my daughter. I have gotten better the last several years about stressing less, especially about things I have no control over. Living with a chronic condition has helped me with that. But I still have my moments. And when I do, I recite this quote to myself to help me let things go…
“Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
Take a Cue
I read this article this morning in the Washington Post by Eric Barker, called “Take a cue from Buddhists and Stoics and ask yourself these 5 questions to get through stressful times” and thought I would share it with others as a reminder of ways to help cope. A little more zen and a little less stress would do us all some good.
Here’s a summary of the five questions to ask yourself:
1. “Is it useful?” Most worrying isn’t. Make a decision to do something or to let it go. 2. “Does the world owe me this?” No. Don’t be entitled. Have realistic expectations and you won’t get angry. 3. “Must I have this to live a happy life?” Probably not. It takes little to make a happy life and there are many ways to get those things. 4. “Is this who I want to be?” Act the way you do when you’re at your best. 5. “Have I ever felt that way?” Respond to others’ problems with compassion and you’ll both have fewer problems.
This line from the article hits home for me: “If the worry is reasonable, do something about it. If it’s irrational or out of your control, recognize that.”
Stress is a normal part of life – both good and bad stress. It’s how you react to stress that can lead to adverse effects on your health. Needless worrying can produce extra stress, which can flare or exacerbate health problems, such as my fibromyalgia. I don’t want that. My family doesn’t want that. My co-workers and staff definitely don’t want that. I am a much happier, productive person if I control my stress and my health; and irrational worrying has no place in that picture.
Do you have other tips for getting through stressful times, to avoid the useless “worry-rocking chair” situation?
In addition to nutrition and medicine, you need other strategies for coping with the daily pain and major flares that occur.
You have probably experienced something like this before: You go to bed feeling fine….maybe just OK….no worse than usual… And when you wake up in the morning you have some new pain. You roll out of bed. You’re stiff and moving slow. Every step hurts. You think you are never going to straighten up again. And then it hits you that there is some new ache that wasn’t there when you went to bed last night. For some of us, that may just be the aging process. For others, welcome to life with fibromyalgia.
“To hurt is as human as to breathe.” ~ J. K. Rowling
I have a super busy next couple of weeks, as my software upgrade project at work is coming to fruition. User training starts today. As I am the project manager, I need all of the energy and strength I can get. Failure is not an option. Nor is taking a much needed break, so of course I am in fibro flare mode, and my shoulder and neck are acting up.
Although I tweeted this out for #MondayMotivation, I am recycling this quote for a little #WednesdayWisdom to get me through the next few weeks.
“With a new day comes new strength and new thoughts.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Remember, every day is a new day to begin again. Hope you all have a beautiful rest of your week! Positive vibes and thoughts for all!
Chronic physical pain often also creates emotional suffering. Seven steps to deal with the loneliness and isolation of chronic pain.
You know the drill. You are in pain and suffering, often silently. Because of your condition you are in pain quite often and talking about it can be construed as “complaining,” and after a while can fall on deaf ears. You might be in deep despair because the pain is too much. Your life as you knew it has come to a halt. Exhaustion, stress, lack of sleep, and pain. That is the life you know now.
Sure, your friends and family know there’s something wrong with you. But do they really know what you’re going through? And even so, do they really want to hear about it? Again. And after you’ve declined a few invitations because you weren’t quite feeling up to going out and being social, the invitations just stop coming. Continue reading “Combating the Loneliness of Chronic Pain”
In my professional career, I have never really been a specialist, but I do consider myself good at a variety of things. And so it is in my personal hobbies, I have various things I truly enjoy, but no one thing I have perfected. I dabble in writing this blog, photography, painting rocks, volunteering, and all these things I do give me joy, fulfillment, and serenity in my life and help me be the best version of me. I love finding inspiration in every day life!
“The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”
~ Pablo Picasso
But one thing I have found that I both enjoy and am fairly good at is strategy development and plan execution. And so it is that I joined the board of a local non-profit last year, to help them succeed in fulfilling their mission, while helping to develop a strategic plan and stay focused on plan execution. This is the gift I have developed that I am able to give away. #lovewhatyoudo
This post is to pay homage to my readers, visitors, and followers, as my little blog reached a milestone today: 100 followers! I know that doesn’t seem like much in the blogging world, but considering the fact that I don’t follow a regular schedule and don’t monetize the blog with advertisers, I am pretty proud of that number. I want to thank each and every reader, visitor, follower for keeping me motivated to continue to post and helping me reach that goal. I appreciate the likes and comments you leave for me, and I am truly grateful! So a bigTHANK YOU!
Why I Blog
I started my blog almost two years ago as a way to share my love of photography (hence the blog name – PhotoBaugh – my last name is prounouced “Bow-man” so it’s a rhyme), things that inspire me, and tips about living with fibromyalgia. In that time I haven’t spent as much time with the camera as I would have liked due to other commitments (my day job and my board memberships), but those days do come. So I mostly share things that work for me to live a healthy, inspired life while dealing with chronic pain, and hope that I can help at least one person with each post.
“As one person I cannot change the world, but I can change the world of one person.” ~ Paul Shane Spear
Blogging Tips I Have Learned
Consistency is Key: While I am not the most consistent, I have found my views and follows go up considerably when I post regularly. Life has gotten in the way a few times for me, as I have written about (here and here), but I am still working towards my goal of regular content.
Be Authentic: Life is not all perfectly posed pictures of travel to glorious places or sipping lattes. My best read post has been the post where I talked about my blogging journey and my screw-ups. 🙂 (I started the WordPress fundamentals course that day!) Write about what you know and what makes you happy!
Living a normal life with Multiple Sclerosis is something I have learned to accommodate within my life over the years. My goal is to be able to help others to get through the difficult obstacle that comes along with being diagnosed with a chronic illness. I hope that my blog will reassure others that they are not alone with these battles and that we all do have that inner strength to get through anything.