As I wrote about my 2018 goals in my last post, I have chosen to be more Deliberate this year — more conscious and intentional with my decisions and my life. I believe this behavior will lead to greater success in all I set out to achieve this year. So to start things on a positive note, I would like to share a quick post with a few words of inspiration for this first week of the new year.
It’s a time for reflecting on last year – what worked and didn’t:
“Step out of the history that is holding you back. Step into the story you’re willing to create.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
And a time for making our plans for this new year to be better than the last:
“You are never too old to set another goal, or dream a new dream.” ~ C. S. Lewis
And finally, for me, it’s a time to embrace my word and focus on what that means for me in building a purposeful path to a successful and happy year:
“The way into the hall of success always passes through the chamber of decision. Decide to be a success; success is deliberate.” ~ Israelmore Ayivor
I hope you are having the best week! Have you set any goals for 2018 or embraced a word for the year? I would love to hear your thoughts.
There’s a coffee shop in my little town called “Conversations Coffee” that is a friendly little place to get something to drink and catch up with friends. In this modern age of electronic communications, I sometimes think the art of conversation is dying. So on this first day of the new year, I think we should all resolve to…
Openly and frequently, with friends and family,
Near and far.
Grab a cup of coffee with a friend,
Just to catch up.
Call a family member you haven’t talked to in awhile.
“Conversation is food for the soul.” ~ Proverbs
Conversation fuels the brain and feeds the soul.
It keeps us connected and grounded.
It helps us learn and grow.
So say hello. Reminisce.
Share a cry. Tell a joke.
Exchange ideas. Give feedback.
And now if you’ll excuse me, I am going to make a phone call….and enjoy the conversation.
As you start with the big picture, ask yourself: What do I have time, energy, and resources to accomplish? What makes me happy and brings me joy. The answers will then help you make your list of goals.
I started reading the Goal Setting Series by Lara Casey this morning (Part 1 here) and wanted to share some quick insights. While 2017 wasn’t my most productive year, I am trying to look past my shortcomings, extend myself some grace, and be happy with what I did accomplish.
I wrote about some self-care goals for 2017, and at last check I had given myself a solid B-. I would say that was where I ended the year. I am sleeping more and working out regularly. I still need to get away from my desk more at lunch AND not work so many hours – I am going to work on those items more in 2018, as I am building my purposeful path.
Lara’s series can help you take a good look at some areas of your life and determine what is working and not working. That is if you are truly honest with yourself. I mean really honest. If you want to fix something, you have to recognize it’s broken first.
So as you start with the big picture, ask yourself: What do I have time, energy, and resources to accomplish? What makes me happy and brings me joy? The answers will help you build your list of goals. Here are a few points to consider while setting those goals:
Focus on the positive. Didn’t achieve all your goals this past year? Well neither did I, but I achieved some of them, made progress on others. Think about what worked and what didn’t work. Did you set your goals too high? Remember to make them achievable. Being successful will help keep the momentum going throughout the year.
Break it down. The old saying “Eating the elephant one bite at a time” applies to goals too. As a project manager, I like to think of my goal like a project – what are the tasks and milestones you need to achieve along the way to get across the finish line? And then try to focus on one thing at a time.
Write it down. This helps you commit, and then you can track your progress and go back and review what you want to achieve and how you are doing. I am using my planner for yearly goals, which I can break down into monthly and weekly milestones and To Do’s to help me reach them.
Celebrate progress. And as you are reaching certain milestones along the way, don’t forget to CELEBRATE those steps you have achieved. Be proud of what you have done, and don’t dwell on what you haven’t.
I hope I have given you some things to get you started on your goal setting journey. I will be reading through Lara Casey’s series the next few days, so I hope you check it out too! One of my goals this year is to determine if I am going to make the time to keep blogging, or if I should let it go for now. More to come on that…
“If the worry is reasonable, do something about it. If it’s irrational or out of your control, recognize that.” – Eric Barker
I am a worrier. I come by it honestly, as my mom is a worrier too. And I fear I have passed this trait on to my daughter. I have gotten better the last several years about stressing less, especially about things I have no control over. Living with a chronic condition has helped me with that. But I still have my moments. And when I do, I recite this quote to myself to help me let things go…
“Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
Take a Cue
I read this article this morning in the Washington Post by Eric Barker, called “Take a cue from Buddhists and Stoics and ask yourself these 5 questions to get through stressful times” and thought I would share it with others as a reminder of ways to help cope. A little more zen and a little less stress would do us all some good.
Here’s a summary of the five questions to ask yourself:
1. “Is it useful?” Most worrying isn’t. Make a decision to do something or to let it go. 2. “Does the world owe me this?” No. Don’t be entitled. Have realistic expectations and you won’t get angry. 3. “Must I have this to live a happy life?” Probably not. It takes little to make a happy life and there are many ways to get those things. 4. “Is this who I want to be?” Act the way you do when you’re at your best. 5. “Have I ever felt that way?” Respond to others’ problems with compassion and you’ll both have fewer problems.
This line from the article hits home for me: “If the worry is reasonable, do something about it. If it’s irrational or out of your control, recognize that.”
Stress is a normal part of life – both good and bad stress. It’s how you react to stress that can lead to adverse effects on your health. Needless worrying can produce extra stress, which can flare or exacerbate health problems, such as my fibromyalgia. I don’t want that. My family doesn’t want that. My co-workers and staff definitely don’t want that. I am a much happier, productive person if I control my stress and my health; and irrational worrying has no place in that picture.
Do you have other tips for getting through stressful times, to avoid the useless “worry-rocking chair” situation?
I have a super busy next couple of weeks, as my software upgrade project at work is coming to fruition. User training starts today. As I am the project manager, I need all of the energy and strength I can get. Failure is not an option. Nor is taking a much needed break, so of course I am in fibro flare mode, and my shoulder and neck are acting up.
Although I tweeted this out for #MondayMotivation, I am recycling this quote for a little #WednesdayWisdom to get me through the next few weeks.
“With a new day comes new strength and new thoughts.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Remember, every day is a new day to begin again. Hope you all have a beautiful rest of your week! Positive vibes and thoughts for all!
In my professional career, I have never really been a specialist, but I do consider myself good at a variety of things. And so it is in my personal hobbies, I have various things I truly enjoy, but no one thing I have perfected. I dabble in writing this blog, photography, painting rocks, volunteering, and all these things I do give me joy, fulfillment, and serenity in my life and help me be the best version of me. I love finding inspiration in every day life!
“The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”
~ Pablo Picasso
But one thing I have found that I both enjoy and am fairly good at is strategy development and plan execution. And so it is that I joined the board of a local non-profit last year, to help them succeed in fulfilling their mission, while helping to develop a strategic plan and stay focused on plan execution. This is the gift I have developed that I am able to give away. #lovewhatyoudo
“No bird soars too high if he soars with his own wings.”
~ William Blake
I took these pictures while on vacationing in Oregon this past January. We took a day trip to drive up the Pacific Coast Highway, visit the Tillamook Dairy factory, and stop by Cannon Beach and the famous “Goonies rock”. This day was special because it was one of the few days we got to explore Oregon — we spent the next two days of our trip snowed in!
I am so glad you have chosen to visit my website and I hope you will continue to come back to read more! You will see that I do believe that a positive attitude can make a huge difference! I truly hope that my website will reassure others that they are not alone with their battles; my goal is to help others!