My father was many things to many people, but to me he was just daddy. And he was my hero.
This Father’s Day is quite poignant for me, as I lost my father two weeks ago now. The last words he said to me just a few days before that were, “Happy Birthday,” and then he drifted off to sleep for a few days. While his passing was expected given the 7 months he spent in hospice care, the loss did not hurt any less. So today, Father’s Day, I will spend quietly mourning the loss of my dad, remembering all the great times we had, and celebrating my husband for the father he is to our two kids.
Dad didn’t want a funeral or a fuss. We had a small memorial to honor him, and so the family could come together and share stories. My oldest brother gave the service and led us in songs. My older brother put together a slide show of a lifetime of memories. And I gave the eulogy. Afterwards we had a wonderful meal and there I was, taking dad’s place, and giving a toast.
Dad’s eulogy was the hardest thing I have ever sat down to write. It was even harder to give. But today, I want to share it.
“Never let the things you can’t do, stop you from doing what you can.”
Fibromyalgia Awareness Day was yesterday, but it’s also recognized for the entire month of May. Fibromyalgia Syndrome is marked by widespread musculoskeletal pain, fatigue, and sleeping problems. The result of this is often that those of us with it are a shell of our former selves, too fatigued or in pain to carry on the life we once led.
While running marathons may no longer be in our wheelhouse, let’s not forget there are still plenty of things we can do and enjoy in life. We may have to adapt or take things in moderation, but that doesn’t mean we have to live a life of loneliness and isolation.
“Never let the things you can’t do stop you from doing what you can.”
Just like Ferris Bueller says at the end of the movie, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in awhile, you could miss it.” So my fellow fibrowarriors, my hope for you is that you find something you can do so you can enjoy the life you have.
Spring is here, but there is still some winter in the air!
Technically it is spring, although with the cold front that arrived in Texas yesterday, it doesn’t feel like it. (We even had a fire last night.) But as it has been lately, I am a day late and a dollar short…. I just chalk it up to my crazy life these days.
In the months since posting my Fall Round-Up, a lot has changed for me. My mother had a stroke and my father entered hospice care, so there’s new stressors and changes going on with my family. I have been making monthly trips to Portland to help care for them. In between trips, I celebrated my 26th wedding anniversary by getting seven epidural steroid injections in my back for three bulging discs. (Ouch!) All the while dealing with family, fibromyalgia, a full-time job, and trying to keep up this blog. I do the best I can and I don’t beat myself up for what I can’t do.
Grace, not perfection. ~ Emily Ley
The holidays are long over and I am looking ahead to warmer days, spring flowers, and sunshine. But there is definitely still some winter in the air! In case you missed something, here is a round-up of my posts for the past few months – some on Fibromyalgia and others to inspire you to live your best life!
Lately I have had a difficult time writing new blog posts. I am feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, had a flare-up of my fibromyalgia, and am just lacking the creative inspiration and desire to research and write a post. And that’s OK by me.
We all face times of uncertainty in our lives. We all need to take a step back at times and do less. For this month, I am giving you 10 ways to unplug and recharge. And the great thing is this list applies to those with or without a chronic illness, so I hope this gives you some ideas to find time for YOU.
Spring time is my favorite season as everything starts blooming and birds are singing. I enjoy stepping outside to see all of the buds on my perennials, and just anticipate the colorful flowers that will soon emerge.
It’s a shame we can’t all take a lesson from nature, and not rush everything. I have tried to be better about this as the years go by. I used to think having a fibro-flare was my body’s way of telling me it was time to slow down and rest.
“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” ~ Lao Tzu
Breaking negative thinking isn’t easy. But it’s not impossible.
It’s “March Madness” but that doesn’t mean we all need to live the part. Viktor Frankl said, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Those stimuli are all around us in our daily lives – and can result in physical pain or emotional trauma.
Pain is inevitable. We have the power to choose our response.