As many of us are wrapping up a long holiday weekend celebrating America’s independence, it’s a good time to reflect on what “independence” means for many. While the holiday is meant to celebrate my country’s independence from the colonization of the British, for many the word independence means so many other things.
For those with chronic illness, pain, or conditions, being independent and able to do things unassisted is hugely satisfying, but not always possible. Oftentimes those conditions are “invisible” meaning the individual tries to exert their independence, put on a happy face, and carry on, all the while hiding their pain or condition from the outside world. Try to consider these scenarios when you think of the word, because Independence Day can have different meanings for so many people. Continue reading “10 Things to Inspire You this Month”
Life is full of ups and downs; good and bad; happy and sad. But life is really what you make of it. So make the best of it! Follow those dreams! The road to success may not be an easy one, but you can overcome. “The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.”
Never, ever give up on those dreams. I hope you find whatever you are looking for at the end of your rainbow!
10 Things to Inspire You in April #EverydayInspiration #Lovewhatyoudo
April showers bring May flowers…. And so I hope to shower you with feelings of joy and happiness. While I mostly write about life with fibromyalgia, I often say “I have fibromyalgia, it doesn’t have me.” I want to showcase the fact that my condition doesn’t define me. Life is multi-dimensional. And so with that, here is the April 2018 edition of…
As you start with the big picture, ask yourself: What do I have time, energy, and resources to accomplish? What makes me happy and brings me joy. The answers will then help you make your list of goals.
I started reading the Goal Setting Series by Lara Casey this morning (Part 1 here) and wanted to share some quick insights. While 2017 wasn’t my most productive year, I am trying to look past my shortcomings, extend myself some grace, and be happy with what I did accomplish.
I wrote about some self-care goals for 2017, and at last check I had given myself a solid B-. I would say that was where I ended the year. I am sleeping more and working out regularly. I still need to get away from my desk more at lunch AND not work so many hours – I am going to work on those items more in 2018, as I am building my purposeful path. Continue reading “Building a Purposeful Path”
“If the worry is reasonable, do something about it. If it’s irrational or out of your control, recognize that.” – Eric Barker
I am a worrier. I come by it honestly, as my mom is a worrier too. And I fear I have passed this trait on to my daughter. I have gotten better the last several years about stressing less, especially about things I have no control over. Living with a chronic condition has helped me with that. But I still have my moments. And when I do, I recite this quote to myself to help me let things go…
“Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
Take a Cue
I read this article this morning in the Washington Post by Eric Barker, called “Take a cue from Buddhists and Stoics and ask yourself these 5 questions to get through stressful times” and thought I would share it with others as a reminder of ways to help cope. A little more zen and a little less stress would do us all some good.
Here’s a summary of the five questions to ask yourself:
1. “Is it useful?” Most worrying isn’t. Make a decision to do something or to let it go. 2. “Does the world owe me this?” No. Don’t be entitled. Have realistic expectations and you won’t get angry. 3. “Must I have this to live a happy life?” Probably not. It takes little to make a happy life and there are many ways to get those things. 4. “Is this who I want to be?” Act the way you do when you’re at your best. 5. “Have I ever felt that way?” Respond to others’ problems with compassion and you’ll both have fewer problems.
This line from the article hits home for me: “If the worry is reasonable, do something about it. If it’s irrational or out of your control, recognize that.”
Stress is a normal part of life – both good and bad stress. It’s how you react to stress that can lead to adverse effects on your health. Needless worrying can produce extra stress, which can flare or exacerbate health problems, such as my fibromyalgia. I don’t want that. My family doesn’t want that. My co-workers and staff definitely don’t want that. I am a much happier, productive person if I control my stress and my health; and irrational worrying has no place in that picture.
Do you have other tips for getting through stressful times, to avoid the useless “worry-rocking chair” situation?
I have a super busy next couple of weeks, as my software upgrade project at work is coming to fruition. User training starts today. As I am the project manager, I need all of the energy and strength I can get. Failure is not an option. Nor is taking a much needed break, so of course I am in fibro flare mode, and my shoulder and neck are acting up.
Although I tweeted this out for #MondayMotivation, I am recycling this quote for a little #WednesdayWisdom to get me through the next few weeks.
“With a new day comes new strength and new thoughts.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Remember, every day is a new day to begin again. Hope you all have a beautiful rest of your week! Positive vibes and thoughts for all!
What do you do when you’re not working? If you are retired, what do you that is not part of your regular daytime routine? Well I work a lot! However, my free time is spent volunteering – I am on the board of a local food pantry Good Samaritans of Garland (we are currently trying to raise funds for much needed building repairs) – and I volunteer for my leadership alumni group. I also enjoy working out, photography, blogging, reading, cooking, gardening, and traveling.
What would you do if you won the lottery? First, I would splurge on a new computer and camera! But first and foremost, I would get our finances in order so that my daughter’s college was paid for and then my husband and I could retire. I will have 20 years at my job in September, so I am eligible to retire then, but my current goal is to retire at 25 years. We would look for a house with some land so that we can both enjoy the things we love to do – gardening, photography, cooking for me; working on cars, forging steel for knives, gardening for the hubby. And he wants chickens so we can have farm fresh eggs all the time. 🙂 And retirement would give me much more free time for volunteering, so I can give back.
What makes you laugh the most? My husband, my kids, and my dogs always make me laugh. Like Cee, I too love Friends reruns and the nerd in me loves The Big Bang Theory, but my current summer guilty pleasure is binge-watching Bones on Netflix. Emily Deschanel as Temperance Brennan is pure gold.
What is your biggest pet peeve with modern technology? As an IT professional, you would think I have the latest and greatest. But my peeve is that technology changes so rapidly, and I like things to last! I use my 8 year old iMac for my blogging, and it has been painfully obvious for a year or so that I need to upgrade! 😦 Where’s that lottery payout?
Optional Bonus question: What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? I am grateful for the fact that I have a job that affords me the opportunity to travel to conferences for professional development and was able to visit Philadelphia for the first time. I saw some wonderful places I have never seen before, although I had to cut the trip shorter than originally planned. This coming week I am looking forward to some test results. (More on that in another blog installment.)
Liberty Bell, with Independence Hall in the background, Philadlphia, PA